{"id":3453,"date":"2018-06-06T15:51:50","date_gmt":"2018-06-06T15:51:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/?p=3453"},"modified":"2018-06-06T15:55:43","modified_gmt":"2018-06-06T15:55:43","slug":"our-cell-phones-are-making-us-sad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/our-cell-phones-are-making-us-sad\/","title":{"rendered":"our cell phones are making us sad"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2 class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">our cell phones are making us sad.<\/h2>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2018\/05\/16\/magazine\/is-a-dumber-phone-a-better-phone.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">we came across this article today,<\/a> about some new minimal phones coming out.\u00a0 I\u2019m so interested in these phones after reading this article.\u00a0 check it out, because I\u2019m definitely getting the Light Phone 2 if it comes out for Sprint.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">here\u2019s what I\u2019ve noticed a lot lately.<\/b>\u00a0 our phones are a HUGE contribution to our stress and anxiety, and therefore our constant non-happiness.\u00a0 it is happening at a very subtle level, without us realizing it.\u00a0 think about it, we\u2019re being triggered all day every day, every hour, almost every minute, by this device. . .<\/p>\n<ul class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\n<li>we wake up to it because it\u2019s our alarm.<\/li>\n<li>we sort through everything that come thru email and social media since we\u2019ve been sleeping the night before.<\/li>\n<li>we go to the bathroom with it.<\/li>\n<li>we listen to music with it.<\/li>\n<li>it\u2019s in the kitchen with us.<\/li>\n<li>it\u2019s in the car seat next to us.<\/li>\n<li>we navigate with it.<\/li>\n<li>we listen to music with it.<\/li>\n<li>we get updates all day from it.<\/li>\n<li>we get notifications all day from it.\u00a0 and even if we don\u2019t click through, it calls us to look at it hundreds of times in a day with these notifications.<\/li>\n<li>it\u2019s sitting next to us as we work, and it calls us to look at it hundreds of times, distracting us from getting things done.<\/li>\n<li>it\u2019s sitting next to us as we visit with clients and almost always buzzes, beeps, or has a call come in.<\/li>\n<li>it\u2019s sitting with us as we visit with dates and loved ones and spouses and partners, interrupting chances for genuine connection.<\/li>\n<li>it\u2019s usually the last thing we look at before we go to bed.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><strong>and because it\u2019s with us so much,<\/strong> because we use it so much, and look at it so much, <strong>we have habituated ourselves to going to our phones when we encounter uncomfortable space:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">standing in line at the grocery store or bank?\u00a0 pull out the phone.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">stopped at a traffic light?\u00a0 check the phone.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">on the toilet?\u00a0 scrolling through phone.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">on a walk?\u00a0 on the phone.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">at the park?\u00a0 on the phone.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">at home with nothing to do?\u00a0 on the phone.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">laying in bed before falling asleep?\u00a0 on the phone.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><strong><br \/>\nIT\u2019S MADNESS.\u00a0 and IT\u2019S RIDICULOUS.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">it\u2019s not the phone that\u2019s the problem.\u00a0 it\u2019s what it is doing to us.\u00a0 it is habituating us to always looking for something outside of our current experience to take us away.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><strong><br \/>\nI\u2019m working on a progression to deal with this.<\/strong>\u00a0 logical steps to de-notify ourselves and un-habituate ourselves from this. personally I\u2019ve noticed so much more freedom and happiness by distancing myself from my phone.\u00a0 but it\u2019s not easy.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><strong><br \/>\nhere\u2019s what you might want to consider doing now,<\/strong> as an experiment, and see if you notice more happiness:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><strong>put your phone in \u201cdo not disturb\u201d or \u201cairplane mode\u201d any time you are doing anything that doesn\u2019t require it.<\/strong>\u00a0 this takes conscious effort, but over time it becomes habitual!\u00a0 if you\u2019re working, or meeting with someone, or spending time with someone, do this and you will notice getting more work done, and better conversations.\u00a0 I know what you&#8217;re thinking &#8211; \u201cbut what if someone tries to call me?\u201d\u00a0 see?!\u00a0 you asking that question is proof this needs to happen.\u00a0 what if they do?!\u00a0 if it\u2019s important they\u2019ll leave a message or shoot you a text.\u00a0 and you can come back and address them all later.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><strong>put distance between you and your phone every chance you get.<\/strong>\u00a0 don\u2019t even get me started on the EMF\u2019s and radiation.\u00a0 having your phone on you all the time is damaging to health.\u00a0 but past that, putting your phone away from you minimizes the chance you\u2019ll look at it or pull it out.\u00a0 when I\u2019m working at my computer, I put my phone a few feet away from me on the shelf.\u00a0 when I visit with a client, I keep it far away from the desk we are on.\u00a0 when I\u2019m visiting with someone, I keep it in my backpack.\u00a0 when I\u2019m at home, I put it on a table and make a conscious effort to leave it there.<\/li>\n<li class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><strong>choose to engage with it when you actually need it.<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019m not saying don\u2019t use it for an alarm, or navigation, or music.\u00a0 I\u2019m saying use it deliberately, and outside of that, don\u2019t mess with it.\u00a0 allow yourself to use it for the things its\u2019 good for.\u00a0 what we want to avoid is mindlessly checking it for no reason.<\/li>\n<li><strong>minimize your notifications to the essentials.<\/strong>\u00a0 this is so powerful!\u00a0 go into your notifications and only turn on the things you absolutely need.\u00a0 I only have my calendar (for business appointments) and my phone.\u00a0 all other notifications are OFF.<\/li>\n<li><strong>consciously and deliberately check everything else.<\/strong>\u00a0 I choose when I check messages.\u00a0 I choose when I check instagram and Facebook (which btw is not that often anymore, but I do check to support my people :\u2060)<\/li>\n<li><strong>use notifications as a reminder to be present.<\/strong>\u00a0 every time you notice a notification that you&#8217;ve chosen to activate, use it as a reminder bell to pause and decide if you really need to check it.\u00a0 you will be amazed at how often you are drawn to it.<\/li>\n<li><strong>notice your unconscious urge to check your phone.<\/strong>\u00a0 the urge comes everywhere, from all directions, all the time.\u00a0 notice it, and when you notice it, sit with it, celebrate in the noticing, and then CONSCIOUSLY DECIDE whether you want to look at it or not.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong><br \/>\nthat&#8217;s all I got for now!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>our cell phones are making us sad. we came across this article today, about some new minimal phones coming out.\u00a0 I\u2019m so interested in these phones after reading this article.\u00a0&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3454,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[150,228],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3453"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3453"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3453\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3454"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3453"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3453"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/superhumantransformation.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3453"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}