this is an episode taken from our program 29 Days of Mindfulness<\/strong> and we think it’s solid!<\/p>\nhere we talk about:<\/p>\n\nfeeling amazing being our default.<\/li>\nwhy we are not happy most of the time.<\/li>\nour habituation to thinking.<\/li>\nexpectations.<\/li>\nwhat we need to do to be happy.<\/li>\nwhat we can start doing right now.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nnotes and resources are listed below.<\/p>\n\nsubscribe to our podcast on Apple Podcasts<\/a>\u00a0| Spotify<\/a>\u00a0| Stitcher<\/a>\u00a0| Overcast<\/a>\u00a0| Google Play<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">why aren\u2019t we happy a lot of the time?<\/span><\/h3>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">1) one reason is because we are habituated to thinking.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p>from the time we could understand language to any degree, we’ve been strengthening our capacity and tendency to talk to ourselves. over time, this has habituated us to thinking. this habituation to thinking causes all kinds of problems and is at the root of much of our suffering.<\/p>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">we are thinking all the time. nonstop, from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">we are thinking when we should be focused on something else. we are thinking while we should be working on something else. we are thinking during conversations. we are thinking about anything and everything besides what’s in front of us.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">we are thinking when we could be enjoying something in the present moment.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li2\"><span class=\"s1\">this habituation to thinking makes us very uncomfortable in space, with nothing to do. we have a hard time having nothing to do. we feel compelled to fill the space with something. we feel compelled to work on our to-do lists. we have a hard time being around others and NOT talking.\u00a0 space makes us very uncomfortable.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> <\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">2) another reason is we have expectations.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>this modern world puts expectations on us <\/b>that we have never had before.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>we\u2019re expected to have a certain kind of job, career, finances and family. <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>we have expectations placed on us <\/b>from parents, family members, friends, religion, social pressures, fitting in, celebrities, and stars.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li2\"><b><\/b><span class=\"s1\"><b>we put expectations on others.\u00a0<\/b>when those expectations aren’t met, we see a problem with it.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> <\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">habituation to thinking + expectations <b>= suffering<\/b> (relative)<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p> <\/p>\n<h3>how do we create more happiness?<\/h3>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><strong>make personal health a priority.<\/strong> when you find your health, you find yourself. we see this happen all the time. without doing anything else, when you get the foundations of real food, sleep, and fitness in place, everything about your life gets better.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><strong>it’s helpful to understand what\u2019s happening with our minds.<\/strong> understanding in-and-of-itself is empowering. understanding brings compassion. compassion for yourself and for others.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><strong>cultivate a daily “practice” that includes meditation.<\/strong> meditation is the skill that cultivates the capacity to “see what’s happening.” when we see what’s happening with our minds and our self-talk, the awareness starts to change things.\u00a0 then we can choose to refrain from negative thoughts, focus on empowering thoughts, and reframe situations for learning.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><strong>learn and implement mindfulness tools we can use during the day<\/strong>\u00a0to work with our triggers and emotions.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li2\"><span class=\"s2\"><strong>creating more opportunities for \u201cspace\u201d<\/strong> so that we can practice being fully engaged with life.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> <\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">how does what we are doing here help?<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>\u00a0understanding crucial concepts<\/b> makes it easier to adopt daily practices because we know why we need it and what it\u2019s doing for us.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>having a daily practice<\/b> can help us prime ourselves for an amazing day and an amazing life.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>daily meditation breaks the habitual thinking,<\/b> creates space, and reduces suffering.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>mindfulness tools<\/b> allow us to practice our skills in daily life.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> <\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">what can we do now?<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\">understanding is beneficial!<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\">have compassion for yourself and others!<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\">look for natural \u201cspace\u201d in your day where you can watch your mind.\u00a0 i.e. <\/span><span class=\"s2\">laying in bed, walks, conversations.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li2\"><span class=\"s2\">have a commitment to be interested in this topic.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>understanding what’s happening and why we meditate. this is an episode taken from our program 29 Days of Mindfulness and we think it’s solid! here we talk about: feeling 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here we talk about:<\/p>\n
notes and resources are listed below.<\/p>\n
<\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">why aren\u2019t we happy a lot of the time?<\/span><\/h3>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">1) one reason is because we are habituated to thinking.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p>from the time we could understand language to any degree, we’ve been strengthening our capacity and tendency to talk to ourselves. over time, this has habituated us to thinking. this habituation to thinking causes all kinds of problems and is at the root of much of our suffering.<\/p>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">we are thinking all the time. nonstop, from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">we are thinking when we should be focused on something else. we are thinking while we should be working on something else. we are thinking during conversations. we are thinking about anything and everything besides what’s in front of us.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">we are thinking when we could be enjoying something in the present moment.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li2\"><span class=\"s1\">this habituation to thinking makes us very uncomfortable in space, with nothing to do. we have a hard time having nothing to do. we feel compelled to fill the space with something. we feel compelled to work on our to-do lists. we have a hard time being around others and NOT talking.\u00a0 space makes us very uncomfortable.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> <\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">2) another reason is we have expectations.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>this modern world puts expectations on us <\/b>that we have never had before.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>we\u2019re expected to have a certain kind of job, career, finances and family. <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>we have expectations placed on us <\/b>from parents, family members, friends, religion, social pressures, fitting in, celebrities, and stars.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li2\"><b><\/b><span class=\"s1\"><b>we put expectations on others.\u00a0<\/b>when those expectations aren’t met, we see a problem with it.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> <\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">habituation to thinking + expectations <b>= suffering<\/b> (relative)<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p> <\/p>\n<h3>how do we create more happiness?<\/h3>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><strong>make personal health a priority.<\/strong> when you find your health, you find yourself. we see this happen all the time. without doing anything else, when you get the foundations of real food, sleep, and fitness in place, everything about your life gets better.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><strong>it’s helpful to understand what\u2019s happening with our minds.<\/strong> understanding in-and-of-itself is empowering. understanding brings compassion. compassion for yourself and for others.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><strong>cultivate a daily “practice” that includes meditation.<\/strong> meditation is the skill that cultivates the capacity to “see what’s happening.” when we see what’s happening with our minds and our self-talk, the awareness starts to change things.\u00a0 then we can choose to refrain from negative thoughts, focus on empowering thoughts, and reframe situations for learning.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><strong>learn and implement mindfulness tools we can use during the day<\/strong>\u00a0to work with our triggers and emotions.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li2\"><span class=\"s2\"><strong>creating more opportunities for \u201cspace\u201d<\/strong> so that we can practice being fully engaged with life.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> <\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">how does what we are doing here help?<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span 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mind.\u00a0 i.e. <\/span><span class=\"s2\">laying in bed, walks, conversations.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li2\"><span class=\"s2\">have a commitment to be interested in this topic.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>understanding what’s happening and why we meditate. this is an episode taken from our program 29 Days of Mindfulness and we think it’s solid! here we talk about: feeling 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